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Topic: Can You Tolerate Being Lonely for Life? |
simple_azn_guy
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| Posted on 12/14/2005 20:47 |
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Being single is wonderful, because everything is just so much simpler. However, can anyone really tolerate being single for life? If you had a chance at LOVE, would you take it? |
Almighty1
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| Posted on 12/15/2005 02:22 |
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I would take it if I had a chance at LOVE and the other side isn't a player. |
simple_azn_guy
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| Posted on 12/16/2005 15:14 |
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So true, so true Simple_Lady! Life without Love just feels like you're not really Living. I guess the old saying is true..."LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND". I for one do not want to spend the rest of my life alone. It would feel like I'm punishing myself cuz I never took the effort to seek out Love. If we just sit around and wait for that special someone to come our way, then we'd be wasting our life waiting...we all need to make the effort to find our partner. Just pretend that they are lost and need to find their way home to you. |
Almighty1
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| Posted on 12/19/2005 01:08 |
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I think it's really more to do with fate since if you were meant to meet that person in your lifetime, you will but you just have to make use of the opportunity to know that person. |
speller
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| Posted on 12/26/2005 07:10 |
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It's nothin like being in love as long as you and right person have something in common other than that I could tolerate being lonely cuz I grew up a loner plus am a performer i get to travel when I need no qustion asked no arguments no headaches But I do like to share what I have that is me !!!! |
lemongrass
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Can I tolerate being lonely for life? I'd rather be lonely by myself for life, than be lonely and with someone.
I'd rather live without the one i love, than live with someone I don't love.
It's not a question of tolerating. It's a question of accepting and learning to find other things that will bring comparable joy to life.
Lonliness, like love, comes in varying degrees and depth. You are never truly alone, and you are never truly without love. |
Nameless
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| Posted on 1/11/2006 18:22 |
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The right person will come. There are all kind of people out there that does not just look out for $$$. If she is that type then you do not want her anyway. Relationships based not just $$ but the willingness to work together to get there. Good luck |
MyLinh
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| Posted on 1/12/2006 21:52 |
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It is possible for an individual to tolerate a living alone, but it would be difficult to have a lonely life. Having a lonely life can influence one to have depression..etc. because we are all human beings. It is part of our human nature to have contacts with one another such as social and physical contacts. Unless one is a hermit who wants to live alone happily and does not want any contacts with others. I do believe that we are here in search for love, happiness, and success in order to make our lives more meaningful in this world. No one wants to be lonely in this earth.
I do believe so; the right person will come along sooner or later. There are plenty of fishes in the sea and you just have to use the right bait. :) It is true that there are all kinds of people out there. You just have to seek for the right one. Those who seek for a partner just because of $$ then those people are superficial. And relationships that are just based mainly on $ will not last long. Financial issues is one of the reasons why divorces occur these days. If she is dating or marrying a guy just because he's wealthy, then she is a superficial gal. Relationship is also based on trust, honesty, and having an open communication with each other. Sometimes, it doesn't matter how much income you make, one might be attracted with one another because of some characteristics such as his/her personality. Both have to be willing to compromise and work together in order for the relationship to last. Bye |
SCFB909
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| Posted on 1/14/2006 14:22 |
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Ericm, you are right, money is important to most women. Women, at the very least, want their spouse to be financial stable. Enough to support the family. Can you really blame them for that though? No. If you have to live pay check to pay check and/or have debt piling up then that can lead to alot of marital problems. Not all girls are looking for a sugar daddy or are gold diggers. But most girls look for financial security because it's much easier to raise a family in an environment where you don't have to worry about money so much. So don't think that most girls are superficial just because they think money is important. On the other hand, some girls ARE superficial so be wary. Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference. Having said all that, you should not necessarily give up on finding the one. But if you don't think that you're financially secure, then you should try to do something to put yourself in that position.
Edit: wow, immediately after posting this messsage I notice all of ericm's posts were deleted. I guess he really did give up on finding someone and deleted his profile like he said he would. That's too bad. |
simple_azn_guy
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| Posted on 1/18/2006 21:16 |
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Good points...we, as humans, should never give up on love. A Life without Love is no Life at all. It may take a lifetime to find your partner, but once you do, your life will become more meaningful and complete. I fit this description. I met a special someone online in another country and we share so many of the same qualities, that now I find it impossible to go thru life without her. That's how powerful love is. Love has no limits and no boundaries and when you learn to love someone who loves you back, you'll find that your life has no limits and no boundaries. You'll feel like you can do anything and everything. I just want to encourage everyone to seek out your mate. If humans were destined to be alone, then God would make a world full of only men or only women, but this is not the case. So never give up hope in finding your mate, there's always someone for everyone, you just have to find them. |
TexasDust
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| Posted on 1/23/2006 17:52 |
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Lonely can be a drag. To many it causes them to make bad decisions when choosing a mate. Especially if they are very young and marry to escape their home. Or marry for simply money or sex. Neither of these can itself provide happiness yet both are either needed and or necessary. Which is just plain normal as we are all human. When you find a person that seems to blend into your heart and mind without any real maintenace . You are at stage 1 of success. After that comes the need to develop the strength to instead of just saying " What about my needs?" . To, " Lets learn to fulfill each others needs. If the others needs are unreasonable or selfish. Then you have a failed relationship in the making. That is a trade mark of any couple that has been married for 30 years and more that they learn to give more than take.Also i have learned, that anything that moves too fast is temporary as a rule. But we all tend to be impatient do we not? That is human nature as well. I am certainly no wise man. But i have learned a little , and mostly by mistakes. Like for example, my girl friend. She is Asian. No one told me all Asian ladies secretly are Kung Fu masters. After my legs healed and ribs, i came to realize just how dangerosu an Asian can be. She chopped my motorcycle in half! I also hear the Russian ladies are also quite formidible. It was actually the ladies that drove out the Germans so long ago because the men were all drinking Vodka. Wisdom from Texas , Ron.
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touuu
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No, I can not! I am most happy when I am around people I enjoy being with. My saddest (if that's a word LOL) and my most depressing times I have ever encountered are when I am alone. Therefore, I definitely cannot tolerate being alone for a long period of time.... Obviously, when I speak about not being alone, I am not referring to only being with that significant/mate person. I am also referring to being around friends etc.......
This post did not specify whether or not "being alone" meant being with out that special mate, or being without people and friends in general...... |
Queenie
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I don't think a person chooses to be lonely for life, it might just happen that way. Just find a few good friends who will be there for you and have lots of laughs. You might find someone through them...and he/she might be great catch. It'll come when you least expected. If not, at least you'll have great friends. Best wishes. |
Poised
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| Posted on 12/29/2009 06:02 |
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I would not call it being lonely but yes most definitely since I have been single for 21 years straight by personal choice though |
